Marriage and family therapist Chidi A. Okoroafor has warned men against taking relationship advice from social media, especially married men who listen to single men online.
He urged women to carefully vet partners and avoid marrying confused men.
A marriage and family therapist, Chidi A. Okoroafor, has criticized men who rely on social media for advice on how to treat women.
He expressed concern over the “rapidly dwindling quality of men,” blaming it on married men taking counsel from young, single men online.
Okoroafor urged single women to carefully vet potential partners and avoid marrying “confused men,” adding that he is grateful his sons do not follow such voices that disrespect women.
He wrote:
“My Followers have been tagging me right, left and centre about that Ubiam university called Gehgeh university. I’ve deliberately refused to write nor comment on all the posts where they tagged me. I don’t waste my energy on such useless things.
“The only thing is that Nigeria will challenge everything you know. Men are described as logical thinkers. But when you see certain things happening here, you begin to question the logicality.
“Imagine me, an Igbo Odogwu going to sit down to be lectured by a small Urhobo boy of my son’s age on how to treat women. What does he know about women or relationship? If not that I don’t want to sound stereotypical or to generalize, I would have said that with my experiences in handling marital issues of different couples of different tribes and ethnicity, by ethnic group he, as an Urhobo boy comes with a factory fitted red flags. Pardon me.
“Someone sent me one of his videos where he was saying ‘don’t take the financial responsibility of any woman, not your girlfriend, not even your wife’.
“I’ve been seriously worried about the rapidly dwindling quality of men. I’ve written about it here, and people like him want to further make the remaining ones disappear.
“I was telling a friend that if you take away the pe_nis. Many men have nothing else to offer a woman. Reason why some women are not even bothered again about getting married. Like now, a woman who is doing well for herself will wake up one day and go and marry one ikwikwi that’s keenly listening and taking note from Gehgeh? Na buusu you go just marry.
“The society has made it look like the only thing a man needs is money. So, some are zero when it comes to character. Money sef they don’t have.
“When you see the way they talk about women, you’ll think that every Nigerian girl or woman is just idle and begging urgent 2k in the inboxes of men, whereas it’s sometimes the opposite. I was in Warri recently and I went around to pick somethings. If you enter some markets like the main market, Ogbe Ijaw market, Okere market, Igbudu market, Polokor market, Effurun market, Robinson plaza etc, You’ll think that men no longer exist. There are some of these markets that you won’t even see one man, except Keke wey come drop loads or touts collecting ticket and harassing women. Even the keke and buses are driven by women now too.
“But look into bet Naija shops, you’ll erroneously think that you’re at men’s conference. So na the bet Naija money you want spend for women? Some na football viewing centres or beer parlours be their own office.
“Some of the noisemakers are bankrolled by women. Even men being fed by their wives, and the ones that don’t know where their children currently are, how they feed, attend schools or get treated when they are sick, the ones that abandoned their children for wives are also shouting Gehgeh university. Ubiam adiro mma ma cha.
“Single ladies, my only advice for you is: as some of you are already developing yourselves, make sure that you don’t marry down. Not after you’ve built a career, a business or skill , earning your own money, you’ll go and settle for a confused man with no direction in life who takes lectures from a boy who is more confused than them. Blind leading the blind.
“No matter how they package that ubiam university, I will never buy into it. I don’t even read any post on it. Thank God that my older sons don’t even know that he exists. We’re still very much busy talking about Alex Hormozi and his wife and how to tap into their success, not a boy that still wears boxers upside-down. “
